Since moving to New York City and acquiring the BF, I’ve made it a point not to go out on Valentine’s Day. Most restaurant menus are prix fixe, there are too many hearts and teddy bears just around for my liking and you’ll be battling with lots of women who really do make dinners on V-Day a priority, which is not a fun sport. Personally, I much prefer to buy a special bottle of wine or champagne and cook together—it’s a much more intimate experience and if you’re as lucky as I am, it’s more delicious each passing year.

One of the things that really gets me about Valentine’s Day is that anyone marketing it assumes that everyone has a significant other: so not true! Have you ever been single on Valentine’s Day? I have, and it’s kind of a bummer. This is why my Valentine’s Day Guide encompasses more than just a romantic night with your lover—there’s something for everyone.

With your friends: Play Cards Against Humanity

This game is hilariously offensive so if you have a must-be-PC-thing it is not for you. However, even some of my most soft-spoken friends have truly rolled on the floor with laughter while playing this game. I recommend you pair with champagne, macaroons and some cute, feel good-lingerie inspired pieces.

Clockwise starting with top left: ARI DEIN pajamas / Stella McCartney Freya Filming Bra and Panty / Kriss Soonik Maike top / Laduree Macarons (source) / Leather Feather necklace by LoveAtFirstBlush / Cards Against Humanity

On your own: Curl Up With Wine and a Good Book

If you’re a devoted reader, you’ve probably heard this already so my apologies. But for anyone who doesn’t know how much I love Steve Martin as a writer, let it be known. This book is about a girl trying to climb her way up the ladder in both her career in the art world and in Manhattan’s society scene. I know, kind of cliche, but who isn’t a sucker for well-written chick lit?

Clockwise starting with top left: An Object of Beauty by Steve Martin / Ebejery Colette Chemise in Black / Stella McCarntey Bonnie Sizzling Bra and Bikini / Journelle Coco Robe / ARI DEIN Boutique Chemise / Vosages dark chocolate truffles / Good Wine (I have really been loving the Tempranillos and Riojas lately)

With Your Lover: Make a Masterpiece

I’m not going to say much about this one, except this: your night will be interesting and you’ll have something to remember it by. I’ve included some optional fancies—but what you really need is “Love Is Art.”

Clockwise starting with top left: Zinke Josie Backless Romper / ARI DEIN Song Dynasty Chemise / Lascivious Aiko Handcuffs / Bordelle Gia Shelf Bra and Tutu Waspie / Maison Close feather tickler / Love Is Art